I need 2 share something that has been bothering me 4 a while.
Its about dying values in our society & how it will continue to get worse if we keep up this attitude of "let's just leave the exhibitors of the lack of such values". I havent been a fan of profanity & vulgarity. That is not to say I cant be very fluent in them. I chose not to. Respect and mutual decorum on any platform is key. I would not step into your space to insult you. I might tolerate some subs and laugh it off. That's about it. Especially when I did not call for it. When I step out of bounds, then I will quietly chop my sub and move on.
Sometime ago when I saw that Howard Webb, the Manchester United Referee was handling the Madrid & Bayern match, I tweeted that I thought he only officiated in Red Devil matches. Several retweet & comments after, one smart guy retweeted with a hashtag "#dumbtweet". Dumbtweet?... Ok. So I returned the favour & said I expected him to know a dumb tweet since he was born to a dumb father. Needless to say that I blocked the bombastic element from my timeline!
A day after that, a lady who claimed to be the young man's "elder(not older) sister", sent me text messages to tell me how upset she was that I can stoop so low to insult a fan's father, a father who was older than me. And added that the boy was "just kidding". She also added that if I did not post that kind of tweet he would not have responded like he did. And asked why I would insult their father who was not on twitter. (Am I to blame for their father's inability to embrace emerging platforms of communications?) She then told me to boost my tolerance level.
Now, let me take this one after the other. The boy is not my mate. Neither he nor the "elder sister" failed to realize that. Since the boy is not my mate and i could not pock words with him, I thought it was right that I returned the favour by talking to his fada!
Tolerance level my foot! Dont get it twisted o, that I'm a celebrity no mean say I be akamu o! Shine your eyes. Certainly, as a celebrity, one sacrifices his most of his personal space and life in the public domain. But that does not mean I should not be respected as a human being. That I am a celebrity does not mean a boy of 18 or less will call me dumb because I said something about a general impression that is jokingly passed around amongst football lovers? I am an Arsenal fan and I have heard people say the last time Arsenal won anything the Nigerian National Anthem was still "Nigeria we hail thee!" To be sincere, much as I would rather hear nice things about my club, I liked the sense of humour behind that sub and my response was "OUCH!"
You know what? Several celebrities tell me that being reachable by each and anybody who wants to "see finish". Which is why some build a fence around themselves or have manager who interfaces with the fans. I now see why they do, but I still will be open and approachable. However, yes, however, anyone that crosses that line of decency and mutual respect gets axed because one bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch. So many people have good manners but when such people keep letting those who have seasoned bad manners walk all over the place like nothing is wrong with such character defect, it's all the encouragement they need to get worse.
By the way, didn't know Howard Webb had family members in Nigeria.
The other part of my grouse with the young man and his "elder" sister was, is the fact that they could take offence that I called their Dad dumb. Is it not ironic that their father's age ought to be respected but the age difference between the boy and I don't count? Is that not hypocrisy?
You see, what I am getting at here, is that we will destroy the future of our children if we let these loss of morals values continue. Some people will see a kid in primary school say something rude to people older than them and find it funny. Yes. The common thing you hear is, THE KID DOESNT MEAN IT. Really? In case you missed the memo, the Holy Book says, train a child the way he should go so that when he grows up he will not depart from it. Even in jest. Be guided.
I have decided, that I will not stop correcting those I come in contact with. Before he or she shows up as my sons' wife or daughters' hubby. Any young man or girl, who thinks posting porno or it's equivalent as an avatar, will surely see nothing wrong in using profanity and anger as a response to anything they can not comprehend. The GOLDEN RULE, any language you can not pray to God in should be used behind closed doors. Shikena.
Consequently, let's not ignore children that were brought up on moral deficit and bankrupt values. True, their parents failed, tolerating them won't change a thing. It will just give them more room to rot. And with their character set they then pass that on to their own children.
Let us begin to teach our children communication skills and ability to carry on conversation without resorting to vulgarity, insults, anger and violence. Let them learn to express themselves and table their points convincingly. I know it's by a long stretch, but I seriously think these cults in schools is on the increase because some kid thinks its a cult that will give him that confidence and respect that he can't earn. I may be wrong, but that's what my gut feeling tells me.
I know these things sound like crap... But like it or not it had to be said.
Sorry, this was not meant to funny.