NO MEANS NO. So say people who champion anti Rape campaigns. That includes me. I have to put that right in the front first so no smart genie begins to start terming me pro rape. I hate rape and think removing the device would reduce future occurrence permanently.
Anyway, that's a matter for another day.
As a guy, who has been about town, expectedly, I have been told NO with such emphasis on the word as if I was offering a bribe to Pastor Enoch Adeboye. In most cases, it was either the girl was taken ( already had a bobo), knew I had nothing to offer her ( babes who had their eyes on ready made guys), wasn't her type ( whatever!) or just plain and simple... Did not want a relationship. So she says NO. After trying a little more new lines and she still insists her answer will not change, most guys, including yours truly... Move on.
Some guys keep pestering babes to a point where the lady says, "WHAT PART OF 'NO' DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND?". This is often said with the disdain and look reserved for retards and the sight of human poopoo under a very expensive shoe.
In my opinion, the only time a guy should press on is when a lady says any of these: give me some time, let's just be friends, let me think about it, I already have a boyfriend but he is in London, please I dont have time for your WAHALA, I am not ready for another relationship... Beyond any of these or their equivalent, JUST WALK AWAY! But i got curious after thinking about the matter and just to understand what gets a lady to the point of NO MEN'S NO... I did some CSI understudy.
I discovered that when a lady says no, she believes you have nothing to add to her life. Or you are not worth expending her love on. She may also have looked at issues beyond the normal eyes to conclude that you can not satisfy her. Yes. Haven't you heard some ladies can tell by just looking at your shoes that you are not in their class. Some ladies, I also have been told, can look at your fingers and thumb and know if they would be investing in a large shipment of Duracell batteries. Don't ask me how. Some can just conclude by the way you dance, the tone with which the NO will be delivered.
Sorry I digressed.
Many ladies, get to NO because of the heartbreak someone of the male gender has caused them. Not excluding the fact she may love watching Ellen Degeneres not only just for being a great comedienne and television host... Go figure. My CSI investigation revealed ladies consider height, complexion, shoulder size, forehead, pedigree, spoken words, dress sense, ATM capacity, ambition and so on and so forth.
However in the process of my investigations, a guy told me of how a lady he met in Abuja during youth service in 2006 said an emphatic capital NO and even told him to lose her number. He came to Lagos got a job with a multinational and in the course of work, 5 years after, met another sweet lady, who he fell in love with. As fate would have it, he ran into the Abuja babe that told him capital NO, earlier on this year during the OCCUPY NIGERIA thingy... After so much catching up, She said he was not serious. That if he were serious, he would have pressured, because she REALLY did have something for him.
Did I mention this gist was inside the guy's 2011 Mercedes Benz AMG G55?
I had to ask myself, when a girl says you should have persisted to win her love after she says NO... What part of the NO did she want you to understand?